Ep. 115 - Boundaries, Booze & Being Unapologetic
Episode Summary:
What if alcohol isn’t the real issue… but people-pleasing is?
In this powerful conversation with recovery coach Jen Stoney, we unpack the deeper layers behind sobriety, “good girl syndrome,” performative success, and why so many women feel disconnected from themselves — whether they drink or not.
Jen shares her journey from addiction and manipulation to nearly 18 years sober — and the hard truth that getting sober didn’t fix everything. It forced her to confront sexual trauma, boundary issues, and the identity of being “the good girl” who keeps everyone else comfortable.
This episode isn’t just about alcohol.
It’s about:
Why women equate fun with booze
Why boundaries make people uncomfortable
Why being included feels so important
And how to stop performing for approval and start living unapologetically
Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or simply tired of shrinking yourself to keep the peace — this one hits deep.
What You’ll Learn:
Why alcohol often masks deeper emotional patterns
The connection between people-pleasing and over-drinking
Why setting boundaries makes you the “villain” in someone else’s story
The difference between healthy boundaries and emotional reactivity
How to untether fun from alcohol
Why sobriety forces you to feel your feelings (and why that’s powerful)
The truth about performative success and looking “put together”
Why being in shape doesn’t automatically equal being healed
How to stop recruiting allies and stand firm in your decisions
Why not everyone deserves access to you — even family
Next Steps:
👉 Follow Coach Gen https://linktr.ee/genstoney